Have your intimate partner done any of the following:

From the book "Getting Free, You Can End Abuse and Take Back Your Life by Ginny Nicarthy

Physical Abuse

• Pushed or shoved you
• Held you to keep you from leaving
• Slapped or bit you
• Kicked or chocked you
• Hit or punched you
• Thrown objects at you
• Locked you out of the house
• Abandoned you in dangerous places
• Refused you help when you were sick, injured or pregnant
• subjected you to reckless driving
• Forced you off the road or kept you from driving
• Raped you
• Threatened or hurt you with a weapon

SEXUAL ABUSE

• Told anti-woman jokes or made demeaning remarks about women
• Treated women as sex objects
• Been jealously angry, assuming you would have sex with any available man
• Insisted you dress in a more sexual way than you wanted . minimized the importance of your feelings about sex
• Criticized you sexually
• Insisted on unwanted and uncomfortable touching
• Withheld sex and affection
• Called you sexual names like "whore," "frigid"
• Forced you to strip when you didn't want to
• Publicly showed sexual interest in other women
• Had affairs with other women after agreeing to a monogamous relationship
• Forced sex with him or others or forced you to watch others forced particular unwanted sexual acts
• Forced sex after beating
• Forced sex when you were sick or it was a danger to your health
• Forced sex for the purpose of hurting you with objects or weapons
• Committed sadistic sexual acts

EMOTIONAL ABUSE

• Ignored your feelings

• Ridiculed or insulted women as a group

• Ridiculed or insulted your most valued beliefs, your religion, race, heritage or class

• Withheld approval, appreciation or affection as punishment

• Continually criticized you, called you names, shouted at you

• Insulted or drove away your friends or family

• Humiliated you in private or public

• Refused to socialize with you

• Kept you from working, controlled your money, made all decisions

• Refused to work or share money

• Took car keys or money away

• Regularly threatened to leave or told you to leave

• Threatened to hurt you or your family

• Punished or deprived the children when he was angry at you

• Threatened to kidnap the children if you left him

• Abused pets to hurt you

• Told you about his affairs

• Harassed you about affairs he imagined you were having

• Manipulated you with lies and contradictions